Notes from the Bookshelf: The Love Dare

Truth or dare? Dare, right? A dare means you have to do something you know you are not comfortable doing but then you get to say you did it! Or did you pick truth? Saying or admitting something you have to openly share. What about Truth or Dare in your marriage? 

This week, Jessica taught us a lesson from the book LoveDare by authors Alex  and Stephen Kendrick and Lawrence Kimbrough.  There are several dares throughout the book that the authors challenge you to do to or for your spouse but there are truths scattered all throughout the pages and the building blocks, the meat and potatoes of all of those truths come from God and the words of love that He has for us. 

Jessica explained to us that there are two types of love, (1)Phileo and Eros- It’s friendship and sexual love, it’s important in a marriage but it’s only based on feelings (feelings that can change if one is wronged or not feeling loved back).  (2)Agape love is love that we receive and learn from God.  It is unselfish, unconditional, unstoppable, and based on choice- not feelings.

God loves us unconditionally, without any reason or need to.  He loves us in spite of our every fault and forgives our every sin.  It’s not easy showing Agape love all the time, but making the effort continuously to be patient, kind, thoughtful, and considerate is what God expects of us as Christian wives.  It’s a daring kind of love that puts God’s desires before your own. 

 Will you dare to defend your husband at all times? Can you be flexible with him, thoughtful towards him and be completely humble and stand down when you’d rather fight him? Will you dare yourself to keep that unwavering love in your heart for your husband because you know you can trust in the truth that Lord will never cease the overflowing Agape love he has for you?

                “We love because he first loved us.” 1 John 4:19